First, it boggles my mind that I even have to type the title of this post. Second, if you want the quick and dirty version, here you go:
- Get off the internet. Seriously, stop wasting your time. Nothing's changing except your stress levels. (And if you're reading this online, I'm not sure who the joke's on, me or you).
- Turn off your television.
Boom! There you go.
If you want just a few more ideas here are some things to consider.
- Limit your media consumption! (I thought it worth repeating.)
- Be honest with yourself and others about your feelings. Emotions are calls for action and if you're feeling something, say something. You deserve to be heard.
- Spend time with your friends and family, human and non-human alike.
- Go outside.
- Get out of the house. Go see Black Panther or another movie of your choice. Do something! Anything!
- Don't get too Hungry, Angry, Lonely, or Tired. Don't go into HALT!
- Be kind, even if it's a small gesture of politeness, for example: hold the door for someone, pick up trash that didn't make it into the trashcan, compliment someone (just don't be creepy about it), tell someone how important they are to you. In other words, find a way to get out of yourself and connect with others.
- Be of service to someone, something, anything.
- Pamper yourself. Get a haircut. That new pair of shoes? Go for it! Don't go overboard, but be kind to you. You deserve it.
These are just a few things to consider. They aren't fancy. They're just my way of doing something (see list above).
Two final thoughts: 1) If you're feeling helpless, powerless, or stuck on the issue of gun violence, please get involved. There are organizations that need your help. Your voice matters. 2) If you find in the near future that you're just not able to move past your grief or your rage, contact a therapist. I might not be the right fit for you, but I'm always available for referrals.
And finally: get off the Internet and turn off your television!